The use of NLP and emotionally focused therapy with divorcing couples in crisis


The use of neuro-linguistic programming and emotionally focused therapy with divorcing couples in crisis

Mediation with Separated Parents

Lowenstein L F: Mediation with Separated Parents: Recent Research 2002-2007 from the Journal of Divorce & Remarriage 50(4) – Routledge: 233-247, 2009 and also published on the parental-alienation.info website

Abstract: Mediation is increasingly being used to attempt to resolve conflicts between parents following divorce and separation. The article considers the problems faced by the mediator and how mediation can sometimes take the place of hostile litigation. The value and objective of mediation is to create harmony where there is disharmony. This naturally affects not only the adults but children from the relationship. The manner in which mediation is conducted varies with the mediator. One method found to be successful is discussed.
It has been well established that the trials and tribulations of experiencing a divorce are not easy for anyone who has lived through it first hand. Regardless of how the divorce occurs, it is important to note that there are likely to be hurt parties in need of healing. Taylor (2004) suggests a model based on EMDR, hypnosis, and NLP that may be combined with the efforts of mediation, divorce education and support and counselling groups to reduce the pain and anguish being experienced. It is only when the parent(s) are free from the trauma associated from divorce that they may serve as a positive influence on their children. Also referenced on this site is Parental Alienation Syndrome and there is more information about this here.

Brief treatments for the traumatized

Bertoli J M: The use of neuro-linguistic programming and emotionally focused therapy with divorcing couples in crisis. Brief treatments for the traumatized. Westport, CT, US Greenwood Press/Greenwood Publishing Group Inc, 2002.

Abstract: Offers a new model of divorce therapy that combines Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) in an attempt first to replace the attachment to the ex-spouse (and thereby remove the emotional connection) and then to reengage ex-spouses to form new interactional patterns aligned with their new roles as co-parents. EFT, which is based on systems theory and attachment theory, has been shown to be effective in many empirical studies. NLP, although not as theoretically or empirically sound, is based on physiology and cognitive processes. This combination of therapies deals effectively with the emotions and restructuring necessary for functional post-divorce relationships. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2005 APA, all rights reserved).

Therapeutic intervention of trauma and stress brought on by divorce

Taylor R J: Therapeutic intervention of trauma and stress brought on by divorce. Journal of Divorce & Remarriage 41(1-2): 129-135, 2004.

Abstract: The trials and tribulations of experiencing a divorce are not easy for anyone who has seen it firsthand. Regardless of how the divorce occurs, it is important to note that there are hurt parties in need of healing. This article suggests a model based on EMDR, hypnosis, and NLP that may be combined with the efforts of mediation, divorce education, and support and counseling groups to reduce the pain and anguish being experienced. It is only when the parent(s) are free from the trauma associated from divorce that they may serve as a positive influence on their children. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2005 APA, all rights reserved) (journal abstract).

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