Be On the “Bright Side of the Moon”
By Sonya Yeh Spencer, ITA NLP Trainer, Coach & Facilitator
I remember some twenty years ago listening to Pink Floyd’s eighth album “Dark Side of The Moon”, and the lyrics haunted me for days, especially the lyrics for “Eclipse” on the right. As the song swirls in my head and going over and over like a broken record player (I still remember playing them!) I noticed that I started to think “the lyrics are so true” and started to notice many things in life at the time seems to match what was described in the lyrics. Before I knew it, I was starting to feel a bit depressed and sad.
Thank goodness I had a bunch of class mates at the time who are all great comedians and often told the most hilarious jokes to help all of us ease the pressure of being in the final year and due to step out to hunt for that illusive foot in the door in the industry that holds so much promise of a great life and what we have been trained to do.
Laughing away uncontrollably and with every contraction of the muscle the joyous pain is matched with tears rolling down our chin. All of a sudden; the world did not seem that bad, the mood ain’t so bleak. After a few more moments of bantering and more jokes that came, by the time we all finished the lab assignment (we always seemed to complete these assignments faster when we were having fun), there was almost a spring in my step as I hurried to my next part time job.
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What I learned years later, which I was not aware of when I was in my early 20’s and often go through periods of depression, was the power of our thoughts.
Shift Your State to Perform at Your Peak!
You can make this moment a heaven or hell in a matter of seconds by how deliberately you use your thoughts.
Even more importantly, this shift in your state will impact on your level of performance. Your sense of self and your emotional state underpins how you succeed (or not) in the work place, at home, in relationships and in the world. Every top athlete and business executive knows the importance of mental conditioning and harnessing their emotional state.
Think about your own performance for a minute. When was the last time that you felt down about your capabilities, talked down about yourself and while still in that not so helpful state – achieved great results? My guess is it probably never happened. How many great athletes at times failed to perform because they lost their state of high performance at the wrong time?
So, here is a little technique that I have developed for myself and, later, used it to help many of my clients; the process is called “Bright Side of the Moon”.
Bright Side of the Moon (Level One) – for thoughts transformation
This exercise is extremely simple yet powerful. Whatever you are thinking that is negative or what you might be fearing, may that be towards a new job, something that you want to achieve or change, for every negative thought, generate six to ten positive thoughts that is the opposite.
For example, if you are looking to step up and put a plan that potentially can change your career or business for the better into actions, and then in that same moment, you notice that you also start thinking “what if I am not good enough or fail”, or any other thoughts that seem to burst your enthusiasm – you can use this remedy: Generate six to ten statements that will turn the negative feeling into positives. Based on my experiences, for best results, generate positive mental statements that dramatically increase your level of positiveness to a sense very strong enthusiasm or strong internal focus will be best.
It is important to do all you can to monitor your state in order to keep yourself in peak performance.
So in our example above, the statement “I am not good enough”, the six to ten statements that might turn the feeling from negatives to positives could be:
- What I am not that good at now, I can learn and become better
- Everything I need can be learned
- Every time I become better, I become more successful
- I can achieve what I want and live the life I want with every step I take
- I look for opportunities to be the best I can be and creating success
- Every set back is just information to allow me to refine my way forward
- Any insights I gain by taking steps forward will help me achieve greater things
- I believe I am good enough and any time is the right time to start improving my life and make my plan come true
So, why not get yourself a piece of paper and whenever you notice a negative thought that does not help you achieve what you want to achieve, create thoughts that will instead. You can be free of your own negative thinking and transform your thoughts in an instant. Writing these down is good, so that the positive statement can be repeated just as you first thought of it an wrote it down, and you can refer to it again throughout the day or whenever you need it.