By Sonya Yeh Spencer, ITA Certified New Code and Classic Code NLP Trainer and Change Agent
Is your “Blind Spot” stopping your from living the life you deserve? The success, relationships, money, career progression, health, spiritual development and ultimately, your happiness!
I was doing a six months follow up with a client today and part of her reply was:
“To tell you the truth, before coming to you I never thought what I was doing or acting needed to be changed. But now I can see the difference, it just makes you want to be better and better.”
Do you have a Blind Spot?
She had a “Blind Spot” due to her conditioning.
Our “Blind Spot” keeps us in the invisible cage! It stop us from growing and developing and living the life we want! Every day I look for opportunities to identify my blind spot and I take 100% responsibility to break through it! The thought of staying in the invisible cage is unbearable, the consequence of not breaking from it, is unthinkable. Can you afford not to break free? Not to live the life you want? Not to realise your potential?
p>This conditioning can be passed down through generations!
Things that are held as the absolute “truth”, that are reinforced in our thinking, feeling and behaviour that matches what we think and feel, which leads to results that confirm what we think was right! In other words, we are in a loop, a self fulfilling prophecy. Rather than understanding that the result that we have observed is in fact the product of the way we think and feel (from our own perspective). It is not the “truth”!
If you are feeling things are not happening in the way that works for you, yet don’t know what is not right or feel stuck and can’t get out the unwanted pattern – it is time that you look at what are the things you hold as “truth” in the context you want to change. It can be about success, money, setting up a business, finding a partner, whatever that is – ask yourself, where is my Blind Spot? Your job is to break free from it, so you can step up in life! Because if you don’t and keep repeating the same pattern over and over and over, what would become of you?
Find your Blind Spot today and set your self free!
Break Free from Your Blind Spot in 5 Steps
[dropcap]1[/dropcap]Your current Belief, let’s start with what you believe about, say success, all the rules that says “If you want to be successful, you must ……”. How about we look at what we believe about money? What are the rules that says “if you want to have money you must ……”. Another one is about relationships, especially your role in the relationship, ask yourself what do you believe about how you should be treated, how your role should behave, what men or women want in a relationship and “A good relationship must ……”.
[dropcap]2[/dropcap]Is it “True” and is it my belief or someone else’s belief? How do you know what you have stated above are all true? Do you see a pattern from your parents, extended families, friends and others you encounter? Are you in the context that re-enforces how you think and feel is the “normal” thing to do. Is it really your belief or someone else’s belief that you are conditioned to think it is true for you? Does this belief support your well-being? Are you happy about it? If it is your own belief and it is not work for you and you are in a context that re-enforce it. Then you also need to think, “Do I really want to be in this context?”
[dropcap]3[/dropcap]What would you rather believe? If what you think are the “truths”, are in fact not set in concrete and only but someone else’s “opinion”. What kind of belief would work for you? If you know, there must be another set of beliefs that better suit what you want in life but don’t know what they are. You are at the edge of your current knowledge and world view. To break through it and expand your horizon, you can actively look for different examples or role models. For instance, if you think “I can’t make more than $30K a year, because I do not have a University degree and now I am too old to go to Uni and I can’t learn new things because I am 40”, then, look for examples “disprove” your thinking, and create a new thinking that supports what you want in life.
[dropcap]4[/dropcap]Consolidate your Paradigm! How does having this new thinking feel? Does it feel right? Does it feel natural? Does it feel you can take it as yours and act accordingly? If the answer is “YES”, congratulations! If not, well, that is because this is new, and it represents a different paradigm. It is like the road that is most traveled, the path is clearer and easier to travel through. A belief is only the thinking that most thought of. So, to adopt your new paradigm, think about it as often as you can (I am a bit obsessive when it comes to changing my own paradigms and often think over and over, day in day out, and put little notes that remind me of it in different places in the house, in my purse and anywhere I can think of.), think of all the evidence and examples you have find a paradigm that supports you (for some people they just know what they want to believe is right for them and don’t seems to need external validations), and see yourself adopting this new thinking pattern and behaving accordingly. You will experience a sense of familiarity and soon it will feel right to you, and behaving according until it feels right!
[dropcap]5[/dropcap]Act on it, gain experience with it and modify it if you need to It is important to gain experience with your paradigm by adopting a different behaviour, according to it. If you act the same way, you will always get the same results. Make a change, do something different, help yourself learn like when you were younger. Changing your thinking and breaking through your “Blind Spot” is a learning exercise. The more you act according to the new thinking, the more you learn, the more it will work for you, the more you will change and accelerate your development!
The steps above use simple NLP techniques and I have used it again and again on myself as well as on my clients.
Our “Blind Spot” keeps us in the invisible cage! It stops us from growing and developing and living the life we want! Every day I look for opportunities to identify my blind spot and I take 100% responsibility to break through it! The thought of staying in the invisible cage is unbearable, the consequence of not breaking from it, is unthinkable. Can you afford not to break free? Not to live the life you want? Not to realise your potential?
Break Free, stay strong and step up in life!