By Sonya Yeh Spencer, ITA Certified New Code and Classic Code NLP Trainer and Change Agent
Are you a Mum and have a daughter? Do you want to pass down strong and powerful messages that builds your daughter’s self esteem and wanting to heal your own?
To help grow our daughters into healthy, maturer and happy young woman to have a great life of her own, we mothers need to start by healing our own hurts and build our own self esteem. You can start by reading this poem with your daughters:
by Virginia Satir
I AM ME
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me
Everything that comes out of me is authentically me
Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
Whether they be to others or to myself – I own my fanatasies,
My dreams, my hopes, my fears – I own all my triumphs and
Successes, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all of
Me, I can become intimately acquainted with me – by so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts – I know
There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
Aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am
Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles
And for ways to find out more about me – However I
Look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
Me – If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
And felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
Which I discarded – I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
Productive to make sense and order out of the world of
People and things outside of me – I own me, and
therefore I can engineer me – I am me and
I AM OKAY
These are powerful words, and have asked many of my clients to read this poem with their daughters and create little booklets together to build stronger and healthier mother & daughter relationships.
Three years on and after many successful stories from clients, this method really does work and the level of healing that it creates is just wonderful!
So, I like to share this with you and feel free to share with others!