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In the garden of choices

by Sonya Yeh Spencer, Certified ITA NLP Trainer
I was working in our little veggie patch this morning, enjoying the gentle sunshine and watching a butterfly getting intoxicated on the sweet nectar of our nasturtium, orange, yellow and red, adorned with glistening pearls of dew. Satisfied, I sat and admired how the golden garden lizards were fattening up by eating away most of the garden pests this year, because we have created a more balanced garden environment to cater for all the little creatures. As I was picking away at the juicy plump strawberries, I noticed something was not quite right. Continue reading “In the garden of choices”


Facing Something New in Life and want it to be successful?

Here is your first step

By Sonya Yeh Spencer, ITA NLP Trainer, Advanced NLP Coach

Are you in the process of change?  Maybe a new job, contract, project or relationship and maybe you would like this new development to be a success.  Starting on the right foot might just give you a head start.

As you continue to pay attention to the words you are reading, consider the following questions: Continue reading “Facing Something New in Life and want it to be successful?”

The Impact of Rude Behaviour on a Business

New research shows that rudeness between employees can have a far worse impact on a business than rudeness directed toward customers, or even employee incompetence. Christie Nicholson reports from… Four separate studies published in the August issue of the Journal of Consumer Research provide some scientific evidence along these lines. Nearly 60 to 120 subjects were placed in various situations where they witnessed inter-employee rudeness as well as employee incompetence. And the researchers found that employee rudeness had a significantly greater impact on subjects’ overall opinion of the company than bad service. Continue reading The Impact of Rude Behaviour on a Business

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Treating Trauma NLP Client Session with Steve Andreas

Decision Destroyer NLP Technique From Real People Press NLP Videos In this excerpt of a clinical demonstration, Steve Andreas uses the Decision Destroyer NLP technique developed by Richard Bandler. This womans trauma is resolved without knowing anything about the content of the trauma. This method utilizes the cause-effect presupposition inherent in trauma—that an impactful experience will have an effect on later experiences—by creating a positive experience that occurs before a traumatic one. Recorded at the Milton Erickson Brief Therapy Conference in December 2008 (BT08-DVD2). 55-minute DVD. 3-page handout. Get it here: Steve Andreas Steve Andreas, MA, has been learning, … Continue reading Treating Trauma NLP Client Session with Steve Andreas

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Be Happy

Happy reading… If you want to be happy, practise it every day Robert Anton Wilson Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go. Oscar Wilde Think of all the beauty that’s still left in and around you and be happy! Anne Frank The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. Allan K. Chalmers Be happy while you’re living, for you’re a long time dead. Scottish Proverb Homer, lighten up. You’re making ‘Happy Hour’ bitterly ironic. Marge Simpson To live happily is an inward power of the soul. Aristotle Continue reading Be Happy

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Tips on how to get a grip on Stress, part 2

By Sonya Yeh Spencer, ITA NLP Trainer, Educator, Coach In our last Newsletter we had an overview of where stress and anxiety came from – as a response to life events. I have challenged you to ask yourself “if there is a positive purpose or message that this feeling (stress or sense of anxiousness) has for me, what would that be?” Thank you for providing me with a range of responses from “there is no message” to “it is asking me to think what I am doing”. These are messages for you and there are no right or wrong answers. … Continue reading Tips on how to get a grip on Stress, part 2

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Know the Purpose for Creating Change

One of the most important things you need to identify when creating change is “For what purpose”. Too often we hear clients saying “I need to change X, Y, Z” or complaining to us that for years they have been trying to improve their ability to do X, Y, Z but failed. Yet, when we probed, they have no clear idea of the purpose for making such a change. Knowing the purpose for creating change is a bit like going on an expedition with clear direction in mind. There might be many paths that will lead you there and you … Continue reading Know the Purpose for Creating Change

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Tips on how to get a grip on Stress, part 1

By Sonya Yeh Spencer, ITA NLP Trainer, Educator, Coach Stress, like many emotions, can have a positive purpose. It is undesirable when it creates a negative effect on you and others. We will be learning powerful techniques to work with our emotions, to change our responses and resolve the root cause in the next few newsletters. We start the journey by gaining a high level view of where it came from. Strong emotions such as stress and anxiety can be due to the following: A learned response. We have learned this emotional reaction from our parents or others in our … Continue reading Tips on how to get a grip on Stress, part 1

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The Critical Seconds

…Another fundamental skill that one can learn from NLP Practitioner training is how to re-program our own responses or neural-pathways to create change. The simplest way that you can do is remember a time that you might have lost your temper and reacted very strongly, only to regret what you said or did later. This is a bit like … Continue reading The Critical Seconds

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Change Your Thinking – Change Your Feelings

Change your thinking, change your feelings Integrating Professor Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Therapy & Philosophy (REBT) We often live by many rules in our life. These rules express themselves in the use of language we use which consists of ‘musts’, ‘shoulds’ and ‘oughts’. Professor Albert Ellis calls them ‘mustabatories’. He also coined the phrase awfulising. Here are some samples of both: I must have love or approval from everyone that I meet. I must perform all my tasks perfectly, making no mistakes, if I am to be worthwhile Because I want people to treat me fairly, they must do so. … Continue reading Change Your Thinking – Change Your Feelings

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