Some very good tips in this article on feedback (http://nlpkids.co.uk/teachers/there-is-no-failure-only-feedback-for-teachers/)- particularly like… Continue reading Excellent Article on Giving Feedback to Students
by Sonya Yeh Spencer, ITA Certified NLP Trainer, Certified Advanced NLP Coach
But it does not mean that parents or caregivers should go to the extreme to exaggerate their children’s achievement and build an overly inflated self image.
Research shows that adults who make self-to-self comparisons often are more successful and experience less personal stress than those who are driven by comparisons to others – like an Olympic performer, striving for their personal best. Continue reading “Is your child happy with healthy self concepts?”
By Mark Spencer, ITA NLP Trainer, Advanced NLP Coach
This is a long post, so this is a few quicklinks to parts of the entry:
- Scientific American (Podcast)
- Coping with bullies is part of growing up (Opinion)
- NLP Tools you can use (Text)
- More resources (Useful Links and resources regarding bullying, including adult bullying)
We might think that bullies are quite different from the victims of bullying. But those who become either a bully or a victim actually share similar outlooks and have similar difficulties dealing with their environments. There is, however, one significant risk factor for bullying.
Researchers reviewed and analyzed 153 studies and found that Continue reading “Bully or Victim – What can you do?”
“Every picture is worth a thousand words, but the right metaphor is worth a thousand pictures”, Daniel Pink, 2008 Continue reading Metaphors we live by (Part 2)
The use of neuro-linguistic programming and emotionally focused therapy with divorcing couples in crisis Mediation with Separated Parents Lowenstein L F: Mediation with Separated Parents: Recent Research 2002-2007 from the Journal of Divorce & Remarriage 50(4) – Routledge: 233-247, 2009 and also published on the parental-alienation.info website Abstract: Mediation is increasingly being used to attempt to resolve conflicts between parents following divorce and separation. The article considers the problems faced by the mediator and how mediation can sometimes take the place of hostile litigation. The value and objective of mediation is to create harmony where there is disharmony. This naturally … Continue reading The use of NLP and emotionally focused therapy with divorcing couples in crisis
I Didn’t Sin—It Was My Brain Brain researchers have found the sources of many of our darkest thoughts, from envy to wrath. by Kathleen McGowan; illustrations by Christopher Buzelli From the September 2009 issue, published online October 5, 2009 This article talks about the research neuroscience has begun into such things as inhibitory cognitive control networks involving the front of the brain activate to squelch the impulse and other brain regions such as the caudate—partly responsible for body movement and coordination—suppress the physical impulse. These are interesting to follow, but as yet do not yet seem to have identified the … Continue reading I Didn't Sin—It Was My Brain
NLP Practitioner Course, More information, to register, download our brochure …offering certificates co-signed by the founders of the International Trainers Academy – John Grinder, Carmen Bostic St Clair and Michael Carroll. This course is the only one available in Australia … Continue reading NLP Training now in Brisbane – NLP Practitioner Course
NLP Café Brisbane Tuesday, 3-Mar-2009 Topic: Open Coaching / Mentoring (Public Workshop) and Schedule of activities This is for both practitioners and public. As described in the 26-Feb-09 session… This is a special session for NLP Practitioners who want to participate in the Open Coaching / Mentoring activities, but this week with clients attending. It is also great for those who are new to or know little about NLP to taste the way NLP coaching can be with a mentored coach. You can also sample what NLP is like. Schedule 6:10 Registration 6:15 Introduction 6:30 Start (No late arrival at … Continue reading NLP Cafe Brisbane, 3-Mar-2009
Influencing with Integrity is a great book to put some of what you may have learned in NLP into practice and use the skills and processes to truly influence those around you with integrity. The focus is worthy, and the subtle perspective is stll refreshing even though the book was written and first published in 1983. For those who enjoy to read and yet learn with some visuals, this appeals as many concepts are laid out in a unique way, bringing more insight into the deeper aspects of some areas we may take for granted. This book is not directed … Continue reading Influencing with Integrity: Management Skills for Communication and Negotiation
The New Peopelmaking by Virginia Satir I can not praise this wonderful book enough! Love, compassion, wisdom, insight and practical tools that everyone can use are all in this one book. Speaking as a step mother with three boys, age from 16 to 21, we, as a family have benefited greatly and continue to do so. I personally have learned some impressive (little self praising is healthy, as it seems to me, our family is good at praising each other but not ourselves) skills and smooth over many situations. Speaking as a coach and therapist, Virginia has supplied us with … Continue reading The New Peopelmaking by Virginia Satir
NLP Café Brisbane Listening with your third ear – find out your deepest belief– If you listen very carefully you can gain so much more beyond the words that are being said. Often, it is not the words that are being said that is important – it is the message behind them.
For Therapist: Enhance your listening skills and unpack the hidden message that your client is presenting to you.
For Couples, Parents and Managers: gain Continue reading “Public Workshop – Thursday, 25 September 08. Topic: Listening with your third ear – find out your deepest belief”
NLP Café Brisbane How do we go about forgiving the unforgivable? Many people have said they couldn’t possibly forgive certain acts, certain ways they were treated; in fact it is irrational to forgive for some people. A rational person, when hurt, should react to protect themselves for as long as it is necessary to ensure survival, but at what cost? To forgive does not mean to forget. The challenge here is to forgive and learn so it will never happen again! Learn the power of forgiving and remembering – this is a wonderful pattern developed by Robert MacDonald with great compassion.
For Therapist: Enhance your skills by learning a pattern that will greatly help your client with gentleness and minimum contamination of the client’s model of the world.
For Parents and Managers: Master this skill and use yourself as an example for people who are in your life.
For Individuals: Create new depth of self understanding, profound insight and the power of choices in life.
Opening Hours – Registration: 6:15pm, Starts: 6:30pm, Finishes: 8:30pm
Feel free to send to your friends, colleagues Continue reading “Public workshop – Thursday, 28 August 08. Topic: Forgive and Remember”
Written by Mark Spencer, Advanced NLP Coach
Childhood to Adult hood can be like the Niagara Falls on the US/Canadian border.
You grow up in the calm waters of the great lakes, then when your time has come, you proceed toward the Niagara Falls – with no real warning, life just goes that way with the passing of time. One moment you are passing through more fast flowing water, and the next you are thrown over the falls and into a boiling mass
by Sonya Yeh Spencer
Research shows that adults who make self-to-self comparisons often are more successful and experience less personal stress than those who are driven by comparisons to others – like an Olympic performer, striving for their personal best.
Comparing yourself to others is natural for all of us, but it is only helpful if we are inspired by other’s achievements and strive to realise our potential. When comparing with others, it creates a sense of “I can never do it” or in some cases “shame” or negative self-image; the comparison is impacting on our self-esteem.
Self-other comparison is one of the major causes of low self-esteem. When children or adults compare themselves with others, they often experience emotional Continue reading “Help your children to build healthy self concepts”